Dealing With Relationships, Loss And Anxiety Through Finding Your Voice

By Stephen Daniels

The constant stream of internal conversation in your mind that is present even when you aren't aware of it is called self-talk. Within all that chatter is your voice -- the part that expresses who you are at your core. Being able to listen to your own voice and utilize positive self-talk can help women more effectively deal with loss, anxiety and relationship problems.

Often, however, finding one's own voice amidst the rest of the chatter is not an easy task. Remarks of parents and other significant people from throughout your life can replay in your mind and become so entangled in your thoughts that sorting out which are your own ideas and which are appropriated from others is a challenge. Seeing a qualified therapist with experience in women's counseling can be a great help in identifying these various thoughts.

It's important to know the difference between your voice and chatter resulting from internalizing the comments of others. Your real voice represents your true feelings, desires and needs. It also reflects logical outcomes and expectations. Qualified therapists have various methods that can help during this process. Working with your counselor, you'll become more aware of your self-talk, noticing how it reacts to various situations and events. You'll learn how to identify unreasonable thoughts and replace them with positive, reasonable ones instead.

Using your voice to express feelings of loss, irrational anxiety, or frustration over not achieving the relationship you have desired is the first step in healing. Your feelings are valid and deserve attention, no matter what you are experiencing.

Learning new habits and methods of thinking can be challenging, but positive self-talk can make a night and day difference in your relationships and in how you face issues like loss and anxiety. As you strengthen your own thought processes and learn to counter the other, more negative thoughts that have formerly been prevailing, problems that formerly seemed insurmountable are put into perspective and become manageable.

Reinforcing your self image through discovering your own voice and using it to express your feelings and thoughts in a more positive manner will be a big help in dealing with just about every issue in your life. It can assist you in achieving greater personal integrity and becoming the woman that, deep down, you have always wanted to be. The right professional therapist can be a major asset during this process. - 32513

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